Love is a word that is thrown around a hell of a lot these days. People use it to exaggerate, dramatise and amplify a situation. They use it in everyday speech and use it often. That’s fine. But what happened to real adjectives? Why do we use such a limited selection of our vocabulary and use the simplest yet most powerful word we can think of to express ourselves and, in doing so, completely belittle its meaning?
What’s more, we have such beautiful words in our language that sound so perfect yet we choose not to use them. ‘Treasure’, ‘cherish, ‘admire’, ‘respect’ – just a few more basic words and all so simple yet hold so much more impact in speech. Our choice in words is I would say a fundamental factor towards how people regard us. A more informed vocabulary makes one actually listen, enables you to convey your meaning in the exact way it is intended, instead of some mild and vague shadow of your emotion.
Perhaps I’m looking too much into this yet I remember reading once, ‘if the words you spoke were written all over your skin from head to toe, would you still be beautiful?’ An interesting point. I can only imagine a body decorated with the word ‘love’ in all shapes, sizes and types of scrawl would be sweet but… tacky. However surely the word that we hold back from our lover until the feeling overwhelms us and we whisper ‘I love you’ should be held in higher regard consistently, not just in that moment?
I write this as I am bored of basic language. I’m tired of walking along a street and hearing snippets of others’ conversations and they speak with no meaning. They speak with no care, grammatical correctness, civility or regard for their audience, and this the soundtrack that passers by have to listen to. For some, it is nothing as they are the same, and for others, I may be correct in saying it gets their back up a little…
I want people to express themselves. I don’t want people to hold back. I want to feel confident that if I express the purity of my own thoughts and feelings verbally, I will not be greeted with nothing but a shocked expression or awkwardness. This saddens me. Why are people put off so much by someone exposing themselves through the power of words? Words are our best tool. They are beauty and they are magical. They alight mystery and possess the power to seduce. They can cut and they can lift up. They enable us to feel another person’s emotion without us having had to be present at the event.
Let us not be frightened of the reality of this power. Let us use it. And let our encounter with language be not a dalliance, but be forever.